As a woman, day to day living can be both rewarding and complex, to say the least.
Society guilts women into living within certain limits, robbing them of the freedom to live within their own glory.
However, each woman has the right to govern her life without fear of judgment or isolation.
So why do women tend to feel like they need to say sorry all the time? Women have the tendency to apologize—for everything.
Women apologize endlessly for incidents that do not need explanations and there is nothing wrong with all of these things, and there are no reasons for excusing or feeling guilty of any sort.
Here are 12 things that you and every other woman in the world should stop apologizing for immediately.
1. Saying No.
Many women harbor guilt when it comes to saying no. However, it is often overlooked that saying yes to convenience others is just another way of saying no to yourself. It is a way to invalidate your own needs and desires.
Submitting to people-pleasing antics is the equivalent of volunteering to place yourself on the back burner for those who rarely appreciate your efforts. Saying no with your best interests in mind is one of the most empowering acts of self-love.
2. Being Busy.
Ladies, do yourself a favor and stop apologizing for being busy. As adults, we all have priorities and obligations to meet, so feeling bad for putting things off is just another way of tormenting yourself.
Come to the blatant realization that you just don’t have the extra time to spare to take on additional duties or hangouts. It is not that you care for your loved ones any less than you should nor is it a sign that you are in over your head unless you declare it so.
You are just busy creating a better life for yourself, and there is nothing wrong with that.
3. Wanting To Spend Time Alone.
Even if your schedule isn’t exactly booked, it is still okay to decline offers to hang out or do favors for others. In this day in age, everyone feels entitled to other people’s time. And by stretching yourself thin to make every brunch, day party, girl’s night, sports event, and everything in between, you will eventually run out of steam.
Solitude is good for the soul, and you deserve some alone time to recharge, even if you just need a couple of hours to stare at the ceiling or to binge-watch your favorite sitcom.
4. Uniquely Managing a Household.
No matter how well your household is run, there are always a few things that others would do differently. Fortunately, no one else has precedence over your home affairs besides you and possibly the other residents.
So, stop apologizing for having a messy room or slipping on house chores from time to time. Don’t worry about breaking the bank to keep up with the Joneses, and there is absolutely nothing absurd about eating breakfast for dinner.
It is your home, so your standards apply. Anyone who disagrees can be taken off of the guest list.
5. Speaking Up For Yourself.
Women who speak up for themselves are often made to be looked at as combative and irrational; however, this should never deter you from speaking in favor of your best interests.
It is your birthright to hold opinions, even if they go against what everyone else believes to be true. If standing up for yourself means losing brownie points and pushing others away, it is definitely for the best.
Anyone who rules against you voicing your own views isn’t worthy of occupying a spot in your life anyway.
6. Unintentionally Offending Others.
With so many different people and ways of living, it is hard not to offend a few souls along the way.
When it comes to unintentionally stepping on someone’s toes, your first instinct may be to gravel at their feet, hoping for forgiveness. Yet, this is one of the worst things that you can do for your own bottom line.
Acknowledging that you may have spoken out of turn is one thing, but stop harping over your mistake. Instead, reassure the other party that your intentions were pure, and ask that they pardon the incident. Even if it doesn’t end well, never resort to begging.
Mistakes happen, and people should be more understanding.
7. Not Devoting All Of Your Time To Your Children.
This concept may be foreign to a lot of people, but you should definitely stop saying sorry for spending time away from your kids. You are a mother, but you also hold various other important titles. You may be an athlete, an entrepreneur, an employee, a friend, a wife, but above all else, you are a person.
Mothers, like everyone else, deserve the freedom to go places and do things without their little ones. Doing so makes you no less than an amazing mom who preserves her energy for when you need it best.
What’s more, children have their own lives to tend to, so you being in their space all of the time could actually hinder their growth.
8. Having Emotions.
Stop saying sorry for being in touch with your feelings. Shaming women for having emotions is pure abuse. Getting your feelings hurt or being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness. In fact, it takes a lot of strength to admit to being hurt, sad, upset, stressed, or even depressed.
Vocalizing these feelings doesn’t make you a complainer or someone that can’t handle their own weight. Bad days and unideal circumstances are inevitable, and it is your right to react to them the way in which you see fit.
“Sucking it up” or hiding your emotions won’t do any good in terms of making peace with them. Grant yourself permission to feel without regard to the opinions of others.
9. Your Dating Life.
No one’s dating life is squeaky clean, no matter how perfect it appears to be on the surface. The idea of finding your one true love and racing down to the sunset is kind of played out and fairly unrealistic in today’s world.
Dating and marriage are two of the things that are handled on a case by case basis. Not every woman wants to settle down for eternity, and others may perpetually search for the love interest that will last the test of time.
Despite how well we aim to navigate it, life and love are unpredictable. So, never let anyone decide how and when you should settle down or if a spouse is right for you. At the end of the day, your happiness is what matters the most.
10. Working Too Much Or Not Working At All.
Your financial situation is yours alone. It is not fair for anyone to make you feel bad for being an ambitious woman who spends her early mornings and late evenings at the office or being a stay-at-home mom that never misses a spa day and maintains a tidy home.
Both are equally okay. Allowing others to make you feel ashamed for choosing the path that best suits your lifestyle will lead to your gradual undoing.
11. Your Appearance.
Body shaming is disgusting, and telling a woman what she should look like is crossing the line. Whether you prefer going out bare-faced or are curvy or thin, your appearance is your own, and there is no need to feel ashamed about it.
Fully embracing your appearance is one of the clearest signs of self-love and self-appreciation.
So, wear that stylish new tank top that you have been lusting over, or throw on a pair of comfy pajama pants. Ignore the haunting critics of society, and be unapologetically proud of the skin that you are in.
12. Taking Care Of Yourself.
You are precious cargo, so taking care of yourself is the most honorable thing to do. Hit the gym. Eat right. Head to the spa. Do whatever makes you feel good, even if it means ignoring the countless texts, emails, and phone calls that tend to eat your days away.
You deserve to be treated well each second, no matter who or what is demanding your attention. The world takes you at your own value, so never regret the precious time and energy spent making yourself happy.
Above all else, stop feeling sorry for being yourself. The world is your oyster, and it is only fair that you live it up free of all inhibitions. \
Put on a brave face, and reclaim your power. Your greatest version is waiting on the other side.
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Hi, my name is Rebecca and I am the face behind Everything Abode! I am a lifestyle and wellness writer based out of Vancouver Island. When I’m not writing or exploring mountains and beaches with my furry rescue, I love spending time learning creative ways to manifest a healthy home. Thanks for stopping by!