*Updated 2022* ~ Are you looking for ways to be more confident? If so, here are 13 powerful ways you can be your most confident self!
Are you willing to trust yourself like never before?
If you are, you have to be confident first!
Not only that, but the most attractive quality anyone can possess is self-confidence.
Research shows that self-confidence is a key ingredient in attracting more friends and increasing your chances of landing a job.
Yet it is often difficult to feel confident all of the time. And even for those who are extremely confident, it can still be difficult!
The best way to achieve personal confidence is to find out the best ways to make yourself feel more confident.
Because being confident doesn’t have a mystery that you’re missing out on!
You can easily be more confident just by knowing these 13 best practices that most confident people swear by!
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13 powerful ways to feel more confident
1. Embrace failure.
If you would like to be your most confident self, embrace failure.
Fear of failure prevents so many people from taking opportunities – but the most confident people who hold onto their inner resilience of hope after failing at something always seem to be able to pick themselves up after failing to pursue even more opportunities.
How is this so? Confident people are always looking for opportunities to push themselves, whether they fail or not.
They know that embracing their perceived “failures” and “shortcomings” will just be the springboard they need to keep them confidently pursuing their goals for more wins!
2. refuse to talk negatively about yourself.
Many of us aren’t confident because we don’t let ourselves be!
Our worst critics are us. We say many awful things to ourselves and about ourselves, but we wouldn’t think twice about saying them to anyone else (apart from our worst enemies).
So to feel more confident, start pushing away those mean thoughts if you feel them coming on.
Immediately think of something positive to counteract every negative thought about yourself, and you should start to feel better as time goes by.
If you need more guidance, here are 20 positive affirmations that’ll help turn your stress around fast!
3. Think about the days you did feel confident.
We all have moments when we feel down about ourselves. However, on confident days there are also moments when we look in the mirror and say, “Dang! I look great!”
So for the days you lack confidence, try to recall the last time you did feel confident.
Consider how you felt and how you feel now, and direct your energy in a confident, healthy way.
Ask yourself, “How would I act right now if I felt happy and confident?”
Then assume that you are feeling great. What would you do? How would you stand? What would you wear?
Try to get back into that mindset when you need more confidence because chances are there was a time that you felt very confident, and there is no doubt that you can feel that way again!
4. Apply the “Act as if” method.
Sometimes even the most confident women still lack, you guessed it, self-confidence.
Moreover, even though they seem confident on the outside, they could very well be acting that way!
According to the art of “acting as if,” you can be a more confident person by acting the part.
Written over 100 years ago by a man named William James, the act-as-if method outlines that anyone can create inner motivation and exude confidence, especially people who are reluctant to do certain things.
The main principle behavior described to carry out the act-as-if method is to imitate certain behaviors to get your desired outcome.
Acting as if means you should try to adopt the ways (lifestyle), facial expressions, pace, tone, posture, and dress code of whatever is typical for a person interested in doing the job, be it any field, and play the part (ACT AS IF) until it starts to feel normalized.
If you encourage yourself to take action, lead yourself with higher self-esteem, and bring forth that greater inner self-confidence you know you have within, you very well could be unstoppable.
5. Wear something that makes you feel good.
One thing that makes you feel confident is probably something you already own!
It could be a dress that you feel great in, your favorite perfume, or lipstick that gives you an extra boost of confidence.
While you shouldn’t depend on certain things to feel confident, it is a good idea to work with them if they can help you feel more confident in the long term.
6. Plan ahead of time.
In life, confident people take action with what they want in life. However, they do this by following a plan!
Not only do confident women have the self-assurance they need to embrace their failures — but they also have certain steps to achieve them.
In Psych Central’s self-confidence formula for women, the best course of action for creating a great plan is to create and execute a “strategy.”
You can easily do this by selecting a field in your life that allows for more personal or professional growth (consider picking something that you feel less confident about). Determine the steps you need to take to feel better about the process and make a timeline for them!
If you lead your life by planning ahead, your extra planning will give you that inner self-confidence boost you need, whether it’s for an upcoming job interview or your next girl’s night out.
7. Communicate effectively.
Everyone should be able to communicate effectively with others, especially concerning work.
Communication is essential for career advancement, and being a confident person can be achieved by being a good communicator.
So how do confident people communicate effectively?
Confident people can cope well in most social situations. This is because they don’t mind learning new topics and aren’t afraid to contribute to the discussion.
Not only that, but they communicate better by speaking clearly and concisely because they respond well and keep the lines of communication open.
8. Listen well.
Along with having a sense of curiosity, communicating effectively is easy for most confident women because they also listen well.
They don’t have thoughts of insecurities pop in because if they do have insecurities pop in, that means they aren’t actually listening!
So the next time you are in conversation, instead of rehearsing what you will say next, listen with intent.
Listening really well will give you something tangible to say in response instead of jumping in with something that’s totally off subject.
9. Don’t seek attention.
Women with the most confidence are masters of attention awareness.
If attention is given to their achievement, they easily transform the spotlight to all those who worked hard to help them get there.
They do not want or need recognition or affirmation because they already have intrinsic self-worth that already comes from within.
Anything that someone else says to them is a bonus, and it’s a great way of knowing your self-worth and not letting others determine if you have it.
If you feel you need attention to feel good? Ask yourself… What are you really benefiting from it? Why are other people’s opinions important to you?
Sometimes the praise we seek is often what we need to hear from just ourselves!
10. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
People who seem confident just wouldn’t make themselves seem weak or uneducated if they ask for support from others. In fact, admitting that they don’t know something comes off as confident because many people are afraid to admit just that — that they don’t know everything!
Most confident people already know their limitations and shortcomings. And what they do differently is that they try to fill the gaps with someone else’s knowledge who can help them.
They know that asking for extra help is the perfect way to improve their self-awareness if they lack experience in doing something.
11. When saying yes and no — mean both!
The word NO is a hard word to say for many people. It implies that we don’t want to do or have the time to fit that extra thing into our busy lives.
Fortunately, this word is in many very strong and confident women’s vocabularies.
They know that reserving the word YES and meaning it and reserving the NO and meaning that too will allow them to relieve frustration and dissatisfaction from others, again if they mean it.
Not only does it help them to feel more confident about how they choose to live their lives, but by actually meaning it, it gives them more worth to others and to themselves.
So what’s the best way to achieve a healthy balance of your needs vs. other people’s wants?
Reserve yes for just what you really want to do. Say NO when you’re stuck in a difficult place. And if you are confused? Don’t instantly respond. Think about it for a moment and ask for time to reply.
You will gain a lot of respect and, of course, confidence for doing this one thing alone!
12. Elevate your appearance for an extra boost.
We all want to look and feel more confident. And even though feeling more confident is all about inside work. How you look and present yourself can also do wonders for your confidence.
A highly confident woman knows that the look doesn’t automatically mean confidence, but what she does know is that she can STILL enjoy dressing with her confidence.
Psychologists can shout to the moon and back, and it still stands true that the way we dress is another form of communication with others, and it’s safe to say that you want that communication to come across confidently.
Confident women all know this!
So regardless of how you feel, always ensure that you look much more confident by elevating your appearance to suit how you would like to be viewed as.
13. Own the space in which you stand in!
A confident woman has a lot of ways she can harness her inner self-confidence, and one of those ways is by claiming her space in ANY room in that which she stands.
Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shares an easy way that anyone can do, to change how ‘others perceive them‘ and also how they feel about themselves… Her trick? By spending two minutes “power posing” with your arms or elbows out and having your chin lifted.
She asserts that doing this will make your posture more expansive, and you will have the power to bring forth your full, spirited self to any social situation you find yourself in.
You can learn more about this particular tip in her Ted talk showcased in 8 Ted Talks by Females for Females here.
All the most confident women in the world are extremely confident because they have learned and stuck to these 10 classic habits.
But if you can take away anything, be confident in how you interact with others, and trust your inner intuition.
You’ll start to see your confidence rise if you believe in yourself and stick to your own values.
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