Are you in dire need to cut off a toxic person in your life?
Negative people, there’s no better way of explaining how they can be detrimental to your mind, your life, and your overall sense of self.
You could find yourself dealing with poisonous friends, toxic family members, or peers of friends at any given time — consciously or unconsciously.
And they all have one in common, they can easily sabotage your joy and expansion to living your best life possible.
Here are 7 simple ways to remove a toxic individual from your life and keep it that way!
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First, Here’s How to Know Who’s Truly Toxic, with a few classic signs.
The only way to rid yourself of toxic people who are currently in your life (right now) is to first recognize that you have the power over your state of mind and wellbeing and (taking precautionary measures), you can establish a safe distance and space from them.
If you can do this right? You can prevent yourself from being sucked down by the mere association with them.
Now before we start, you have to know that toxicity is relative to each individual. That means that you do have to decide when someone needs to be removed from your life.
Toxicity differ’s from case to case and from person to person, and only you can truly know who’s really toxic in your life.
Here are some telltale signs to watch out for:
- Toxic people will try to control you. People who are not in the authority of their own lives generally tend to want to handle yours. The toxic way they try to do this is by using subtle deceit and manipulation.
- Toxic individuals take without offering anything in return. They’re often there to take how much they can get, as long as you are willing to give it.
- Toxic people aren’t truthful. What we’re really talking about here is that most toxic people will repeatedly be dishonest with you and to others. Sometimes they may not even be aware of it but if you have the inkling that they are, follow your instincts!
Toxic people. We all have them!
When it’s finally time to say farewell these 7 simple tips will help make the transition a lot more smooth!
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1. Create time to process and then purge.
There’s nothing worse than being surrounded by people who shame you, embarrass you or that bring you down ‘just because’. And nothing sets the stage better for intense personal growth like coming out of a negative relationship.
It doesn’t matter if you were attached as intimate lovers or just friends, making the decision to leave that relationship is important for your self-esteem either way. And there’s no better way to first make that initial decision, then to create time solely for you. Drop your plans, don’t do fake rain checks, and start moving energetically away.
It’s very very important that you create time for yourself so that you can practice self-care and so you can create a safe distance between you and the negative person that you want to drop in your life.
If you start guarding your time by putting yourself first and always first, you’ll have your first boundary to ditching that toxic individual in the bag.
2. Talk to them directly.
Right now, you’ve probably come to the consensus that this person isn’t right for you. Your instincts are telling you that its time and it’s your instincts that are most definitely right!
We all know that sticking to our boundaries is key to establishing good limits with a toxic person. So if you can establish those boundaries by always being direct with them — even better!
The next time you are going to have to interact with them? Do it directly.
Continue to practice your good boundaries by limiting your interactions with them (if you can), and be responsible for your behavior when you do decide to communicate with them.
If you happen to make a mistake, say the wrong thing, or discover that you are “losing it” by saying something incorrectly? At least they are standing right in front of you so they can’t try to twist your words or talk you out of following your gut.
3. Talk To Them In a Public setting.
Being belligerent or even violent is not unheard of for toxic individuals.
That’s why having a public conversation with them can be a really great idea if you happen to feel really nervous about how they’ll react. Also, talking in a public setting can diminish the likelihood of something really uncomfortable from occurring.
You can honestly just get up and leave if you run into any issues and if it really gets that bad? Then you have your answer and it’s time to official cut them out.
4. Block Them On Social Media.
Don’t be ashamed if you resort to blocking people. There is no judgment while going through the purging process of a toxic individual, especially, if you need to free up your online space of them as well.
Who wants to see notifications and pictures of the person that they’re trying to avoid? Most likely no one!
5. Don’t Bring Them Up or Talk About them.
If you really want to disassociate yourself from the negative person? Try to NEVER bring them up in conversation, or even talk about them.
Chances are if you talk about the negative person in your life, they could very well have ‘flying monkeys’ that could tell them ALL about it — and you don’t want that!
Negative people have a certain sixth sense about them and they really can sense that you are talking about them in some weird way. Do your best to avoid this while you are completely cutting them loose. This means not saying a single word about them.
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6. Don’t Be Vulnerable.
This may sound way too harsh but being too sweet and transparent with a toxic person can be extremely harmful to your mental health.
Most toxic individuals appear to benefit from any goodwill (especially feelings imposed on them) because that gives them the leverage they need to freely have power over you.
A lot of people don’t know this! Toxic people will thrive on your honesty and kindness. They enjoy vulnerability the most and if you let them in, they’ll lap it all up for a free ride to use against you.
7. Know That When It’s Done, It’s Done!
If you let them, toxic individuals will keep coming back!! To make sure that that never happens, make sure you’re prepared to make it permanent for when you do decide to say your final farewell. If you decide to move on, move on for good!
Getting rid of the toxic people is a mandatory step to taking back control of your life. It’s not going to be easy but it will set you on the right path to intentionally creating the life that you crave.
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Hi, my name is Rebecca and I am the face behind Everything Abode! I am a lifestyle and wellness writer based out of Vancouver Island. When I’m not writing or exploring mountains and beaches with my furry rescue, I love spending time learning creative ways to manifest a healthy home. Thanks for stopping by!
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