Leaving old ways behind can be really scary and daunting…
But, when we are feeling the PAIN of staying the same? Then you know it’s time for a new future.
If you are seeking to improve your future and how to overcome the fear of some of the required changes that you have to do?
You’ve landed on some profound steps. These steps will help provide you with helpful ways to improve your circumstances and create a new and better version of you!
These techniques below on how to create a positive future (from having a negative past) work, but only if you are willing to step out of your comfort zone.
So again, if you are still feeling the pain of staying the same? Then it’s really time to start over.
Here are 10 insightful ways to improve your future from having a negative past.
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1. Walk towards a brighter future
Now is the best time to set goals that will make your future better. It doesn’t matter what past circumstances you may have had, now is the time to write down your goals and be really clear and concise with what you want (at the same time working towards them). Make sure your goals are realistic and measurable and you’ll be on the right path to creating a new and better version of you in no time!
2. Gather a support system
Influence is everything, (especially when creating a new and better life for yourself). Know that the influence of others, will either have a direct positive impact on your life or a negative impact on your life. So, now really is the time to see which scale your life is falling back on.
Assuming that you have a negative past or you are trying to rebuild, this moment really is the time to draw up an active support system (ones that you know you already have) so you can have these supporters cheering you on for many years to come.
Think of the people that really have your back, and that also has a good influence on you and your life. These good social connections will help uplift you and help you maintain a better positive self-image.
Now, even though people are conditioned to always maintain contact with old friends, don’t pass on the opportunity to make new friends or let the bad ones go. You’ll be ready to turn a new leaf if you are open to all the great influences (good and new) in your life and that support system really is worth all the effort to recreate a brand new you!
3. Avoid negative people
Just like the previous step that explored why having a positive network and support team is beneficial to a positive self-image. The same goes for negative people and their direct influence on your life.
If you can’t cut the ties with that toxic person, or you have to be involved with a negative toxic person? Then the best way (to have a new and improved you) is to distance yourself from those friends or family members that have a negative influence on your life. How do you distance yourself in the same room? By just not focusing or putting forth the energy you have into/or with them.
If you have a negative friend (that is in your circle of friends), then this point really is all about how much space these people take up in your mind and how much you are trying to get them to like you.
Know that these negative influences will only pull you back (into your old habits or behaviors). When you put energy into toxic harmful people, they benefit from it and you don’t! You have to ignore their reactions (to your new-found version of you) and improve your life by focusing less on them and more on you!
4. Have patience (Take it day by day)
Your negative past probably spanned a long period of time, so make sure that the goals you have set out for your new version of you, takes your daily schedule into account. We all know we can’t drastically change in an instant, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t change the little things that we do on a daily basis to lead up to it?
So, reflect on only what you have to get done for the day, taking notes on what you can change within that routine… and start from there. This can be as small as what your morning mental chatter consists of first thing right when you first wake up. Is it positive? Is it limiting and/or self-sabotaging? If you change that, would that get you closer to your authentic self that you know is really you?
Know that if you change just one small thing each day, you’ll start creating permanent change for yourself that’ll stick with you in the long run.
5. Assume personal responsibility
No matter who was responsible for the circumstances of your past? Now is the time to take responsibility for improving your present-day (this very moment) and your future.
Remember… You can’t control anything else but yourself! You can only control yourself and your reactions and however which way you respond to them. Always know that your reactions will have a profound effect on your future, so start changing them now!
Right now really is the only time to start owning up to how you reacted in the past, for a new and better reaction in the future. This new self that you are creating, will really start to take shape (in no time at all) if you become aware of how important this step is.
6. Seek therapy to tackle the root of the pain
Therapy is not only for those who face problems with mental health, as therapists can also help just about anyone for anything.
A therapist will offer you a confidential, non-judgmental space to create a new and better version of you, that is if you really take what they are saying and apply it. Plus, sometimes all you may need is a safe space to work out your problems and define your goals with someone who has experience within your situation.
If you are uncomfortable going to a therapist/counselor try discussing your fears with someone you trust to understand the process better.
7. Face your consequences
Keep trying your hardest to show that you have changed and let your current NEW actions speak for themselves. Accept any punishments that are dealt with you (from your past circumstances) and try to perform to the best of your ability now that you are forever changed.
Consequences can take shape in many forms like paying off your debts or having to change jobs or relationships. By facing your consequences, this will always be a way of showing the universe that you fully accept responsibility for your past actions. When you do this, your new life has a new space to create the next chapter of your life with ease and less pressure.
8. Make amends
Perhaps you had a big fight with your brother or sister or you lost contact with a friend or lots of friends? Working toward a better relationship with the people who matter the most may improve your current situation and give you the peace of mind (that you deserve) to move ahead towards the better future that you are seeking.
Although, we can get stuck on old energies or past thinking that negatively impacts how we can move forward… Know that this is all because we didn’t ask for forgiveness or give forgiveness (to ourselves) and we actively didn’t just ‘let it go!’.
So, nows the time to get it all out of your system, man up, and be brave. This is the new version of you that you are creating and that new you, can do just about anything with love! Plus, making amends is also a great act of self-love!
9. Forgive yourself
Making mistakes does not decrease your worth or deserve to take away your self-worth! And it does not make you a bad person because everyone makes mistakes. When you don’t take responsibility for your life, and relive the past by not forgiving yourself, the feeling of guilt can be overwhelming. So, forgive yourself for the part that you played and move on with a humble new beginning.
10. Learn from your past and don’t look back
Learning and facing the carnage of our pasts can help us tremendously to create a positive future. If you understand why things happened the way they did, then you can try to think of new solutions that will prevent your history from repeating itself. It’s never too late to change, and your life is out there waiting for you to grab it if you learned, healed, and only look forward from here on out!
There’s lots more to discuss with changing behaviors but these are just a few that will help you improve your current circumstances. You can change from a negative past into a healthy positive future if you are willing to accept responsibility and actively make the change happen.
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Hi, my name is Rebecca and I am the face behind Everything Abode! I am a lifestyle and wellness writer based out of Vancouver Island. When I’m not writing or exploring mountains and beaches with my furry rescue, I love spending time learning creative ways to manifest a healthy home. Thanks for stopping by!
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